How to stay positive when surrounded by negative people


Let’s talk about how to stay positive when you’ve got Debbie Downers all around you.

You know, the people who have a perpetual dark cloud over them.

When you’re around them, the atmosphere gets gloomy and heavy, and then the rain starts the minute you begin engaging in any conversation with them.

Maybe it’s your workplace, your social circle or even your own family members who bring you down.

It can be challenging to maintain a positive attitude when you’re constantly surrounded by negativity. But read on. Here are some practical tips to help you stay positive and grounded amidst negativity.

1. Find the humor in it.

Negativity can actually be a breeding ground for unintentional humor. When someone is ranting about the latest mishap, try to find the absurdity in the situation. Sometimes, all it takes is a playful perspective to turn a sour moment into a source of giggles. A well-timed, light-hearted or silly comment can diffuse tension and bring a smile or laughter to everyone’s face.

2. Embrace empathy, not agreement.

Have you ever found yourself nodding along with the negativity just to fit in? Well, that just perpetuates the downward cycle. Instead, practice empathy without necessarily agreeing with the negative views. Acknowledge the other person’s feelings, but express your own perspective respectfully. This way, you’re not only staying true to yourself but you’re also introducing a glimmer of positivity into the conversation.

3. Establish boundaries.

Negativity can be draining especially if it’s ongoing. It’s ok to set boundaries to protect your own well-being. Politely excuse yourself from conversations that are spiraling into pessimism. Use this time to recharge and focus on more positive aspects of your life. Remember, self-care is not selfish, it’s a necessity.

4. Be the solution, not the problem.

Have you ever noticed how negativity often revolves around highlighting problems and obstacles? Be the one to suggest solutions or alternatives. By offering constructive input, you shift the focus from dwelling on the issue to actively working toward a resolution. Your problem-solving attitude can inspire others to adopt a more positive approach.

5. Practice mindful listening.

When surrounded by negativity, it’s easy to become emotionally drained. Practice mindful listening by being present in the moment and fully engaged in the conversation. Don’t just hear the words and react. Pause and understand the underlying emotions. By doing so, you can respond in a more empathetic, compassionate and supportive manner.

6. Surround yourself with positivity.

While you can’t always control your environment, you can choose to spend more time with positive people and engage in uplifting activities. Seek out people who radiate positivity and make an effort to nurture those relationships. Their optimism can serve as a counterbalance to the negativity around you.

7. Indulge in self-care rituals.

Invest time in daily self-care rituals that replenish your emotional reserves. Whether it’s a daily dose of exercise, meditation, journaling or pursuing a hobby you love, prioritize activities that bring you joy and peace. A well-nurtured inner self can withstand external negativity much better.

So, try using one of these tips to your advantage to stay positive when you’re around any naysayers.

Remember, staying positive in a negative environment is a skill that can be developed over time.

And I’m also getting better at it too, just like everyone else.

Over the weekend, I found myself engulfed in a bottomless pit of negativity among some family members. We were in the car on a drive. I simply shut my mouth and played this song:

Bobby McFerrin – Don’t Worry Be Happy (Official Music Video)

You might remember it, and everyone broke out into a smile and sang along😊 That’s how to use tip #1 – and who doesn’t love a good laugh?!

Now, maintain your positivity, inspire others and even be a beacon of light amidst the stormiest of atmospheres. You’ve got this.

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